By Richard Hall | Posted: Friday March 8, 2019
I have heard this many times.
Parent X: My son's well-being is low. He has no confidence. Can the school help?
Me: Can I ask you how much time he spends on his phone?
Parent X: Oh lots. Couldn’t tell you.
Me: Does he have it in his bedroom?
Parent X: Yes.
Me: Is he anxious when he is not on his phone? Playing sport or chatting with mates etc?
Parent X: No.
Me: Do you think you could take his phone off him?
Parent X: Oh no, he wouldn’t like that.
Me: Does that matter? We all like our kids to like us, all the time, but reality is different.
Parent X: Oh, you don’t understand he needs the phone.
Me: So he needs unlimited access to the thing that is making him feel anxious?
Parent X: It’s easier.
Me: Sorry, who did you say needed my help?
Enjoy your weekend. Dunedin Rocks.
A generic conversation not related to any real kid. Parenting is hard. Writing newsletters is easy.