A Message From The Rector

By Richard Hall | Posted: Friday May 26, 2017

"Courage" is one of the school's values and is a focus for Term 2. At this week's assembly, boys were challenged to think beyond the sterotype, and consider how they can be courageous every day.

12 Everyday Acts of Courage

By Margie Warrell

1. The Courage to Take Responsibility

Whilst you can't always control your circumstances you can always choose how you will respond to them. No matter what challenges you face you have the power to make the ultimate choice about whether to let the world affect you or to go out and affect the world. Resist the impulse to blame your woes on others but instead make the decision to own your life and own it fully.

2. The Courage to Live with Integrity

Integrity is the only path in life upon which you will never get lost. Placing integrity at the cornerstone of every decision you make requires a willingness to do what is right above what is convenient or politically expedient. At times this means veering off the safe and comfortable path onto a less travelled one where the risk of failure or disapproval may run high. At other times it calls you to forge your own path.

At its core, integrity is about wholeness and alignment between your deepest values and what you are doing and who you are being in the world. Integrity calls for greatness.

3. The Courage to Challenge Your 'Stories'

You do not see the world as it is, but as you are.

Too often, people live in answers to questions they have never asked and claim a monopoly on the truth. The fact is you do not own the truth, you just have your version of it.

Whilst it takes courage to question the assumptions and beliefs you've been living by up until now, and to open your mind to alternative perspectives, doing so, opens up new possibilities for yourself and your life that you otherwise may never have seen.

Ultimately being willing to challenge your stories unleashes you to experience life in a whole new, more exciting and more meaningful way.

4. The Courage to Dream Bigger

You will never be able to have your dream job or live your dream life unless you first find the courage to dream big enough to identify what it is.

Dare to create a vision for your life that is bigger than the one you've had until now in your relationships, your career, and your life in general.

Don't let fear keep you from connecting with what it is that inspires you most deeply, for the greatest danger is not that your dreams are too lofty and you fail to reach them, but that they are too small and you do!

It is the aim, if whether reached or not, that makes great the life. Your life is as big as you dare to dream it!

5. The Courage to Be Who You Are

In a world that pressures for conformity it takes courage to be who you are. So express yourself fully and authentically in every relationship and in every encounter you have with others. Give up pretending to be more or less or different from who you truly are.

When you fail to be authentic you keep from others that which makes you most attractive; when you conform all that you have to offer others is your conformity. Be genuine, humble and unpretentious, but most of all, just be yourself. There is nothing more valuable or attractive.

6. The Courage to Speak Up

Dare to speak up, to give voice to your concerns, your feelings and thoughts, and to engage in conversations that you've been hesitant to have before. Don't choose the certainty of never addressing an issue or fulfilling a need over the possibility that you may have an awkward conversation or a request declined. After all, things that aren't talked out get acted out as unfulfilled needs, and unresolved resentments fester.

Speaking up in ways that honour the dignity of others provides a means of building trust and deepening the quality of relationships. It also enables others to know more clearly who you are, what you need, what you care about and what you are capable of more.

7. The Courage to Step Boldly into Action

Nothing changes if nothing changes. Have the guts; step boldly from your comfort zone to make the changes and take the chances that call you forward to fulfilling the potential within you.

Trade procrastination and excuses for a commitment to being a person who is willing to do what it takes to live the life to which they aspire. Whatever the risks you face in your endeavour, the greatest risk is to take none at all. Fear regret more than failure, for life always rewards action.

8. The Courage to Persevere

Overcoming the setbacks and failures that present themselves on the way to your goals is what brings the greatest sense of achievement. Face your challenges with a deep determination to stay the course. Resisting succumbing to resignation in the face of adversity will require its share of determination and perseverance.

Connect with that which makes your spirit soar and remember that it matters not that you reach the summit, but that you had the guts to try. It is through perseverance in the face of adversity that the ordinary become extraordinary.

9. The Courage to Say "No"

Sometimes we need to say "No" to "the good" in order to make room for "the great." However, finding the guts to say "No" requires first being clear about what you most want to say "Yes" to. Doing so, will help you to set boundaries when you are being pulled simultaneously in conflicting directions, and, will teach people what you will and will not tolerate.

Saying "No" when you need to may never be easy but the price you pay for not doing so far exceeds any momentary discomfort.

10. The Courage to Open Your Heart Fully

Life's richest fulfilment comes from being as open to experiencing life's pain as deeply as its joy.

Opening your heart fully to the depths of emotion that a life well lived calls forward takes great courage but it is the only life worth living.

By letting down your defences and making yourself vulnerable to the anguish that life can sometimes bring, you can experience the joy that comes from connecting with others openly, intimately and compassionately.

Drop the barriers that are creating distance and isolating you from others. Reveal your humanity and make yourself available for others to know, to love, to care for and to connect with. Nothing is more nurturing to the spirit.

11. The Courage to Let Go

As human beings, we like to feel in control. However, peace of mind only comes through giving your best to life whilst simultaneously detaching yourself from the outcome of your efforts, knowing that everything in life has a purpose. Put your faith in the wisdom that created you. Know that who you are is not defined by the outcome of your efforts and trust what you have within you: all you need at any moment to take on the challenges life presents to you.

Giving up resisting what you cannot control and going with, rather than against, the flow of life makes available living in the present moment. Finding the courage to let go will not impede your ability to achieve what you seek most from life. It will enhance it.

12. The Courage to Be a Leader

Leadership is not a position; it is a choice.

Every day you have opportunities to be a leader, for the essence of leadership is inspiring people to move in a direction they may otherwise not have gone, to accomplish more than they may otherwise have sought to accomplish, and to grow into someone they may otherwise not have become.

By choosing the path of integrity, personal responsibility, and courage, you will automatically shine your light so brightly that it will reveal to others the majesty of their own.

Ultimately, only by living with courage yourself and being the leader you are capable of being, will humanity, as a collective, find its courage and lead the world into a future filled with possibility.